Read your mind, p.27
Read Your Mind, page 27
There are so many more people that directly or indirectly have been a part of my life, career, and journey. To every person who has had me on their TV show or podcast, written a story about me, been in my audience and gasped or applauded or heckled me later, all my friends, extended family, my fans…thank you! To my brothers in the mentalism community, JFab, EBos, Nimrod, Kvine, Majornation, I appreciate your lending an ear and helping me brainstorm. To Bruce Kessler and Doug Anderson, you helped me catch the magic bug and it’s hard to believe where it has taken me. And for the reader, I truly appreciate you and hope that these tools help you to achieve your goals and improve your life.
Notes
Chapter One—Channel Your Inner Mentalist
Jennifer Guttman, “The Slippery Slope of Relying on Non-Verbal Communication,” Psychology Today, November 17, 2017, psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sustainable-life-satisfaction/202111/the-slippery-slope-of-relying-on-non-verbal-communication.
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Kristin Koch et al., “How Much the Eye Tells the Brain,” Current Biology 16, no. 14 (July 2006): 1428–34, doi.org/10.1016/j.cub.2006.05.056.
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Kendra Cherry, “What Is the Negativity Bias?” Verywell Mind, updated November 13, 2023, verywellmind.com/negative-bias-4589618.
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Chapter Two—Believe It to Achieve It
Lindsey J. Byom and Bilge Mutlu, “Theory of Mind: Mechanisms, Methods, and New Directions,” Frontiers in Human Neuroscience 7 (August 2013): 413, doi.org/10.3389/fnhum.2013.00413.
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“How Much of Communication Is Nonverbal?” The University of Texas Permian Basin, accessed May 12, 2025, online.utpb.edu/about-us/articles/communication/how-much-of-communication-is-nonverbal.
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Mark K. Ho, Rebecca Saxe, and Fiery Cushman, “Planning with Theory of Mind,” Trends in Cognitive Science 26, no. 11 (November 2022): 959–71, doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2022.08.003.
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“Michael Phelps—The Journey—Ep 5—Visualization,” interview with Michael Phelps and Bob Bowman, posted August 20, 2018, by ProSwimwear, YouTube, 1 min., 57 sec., youtube.com/watch?v=p-mZhvxeK_k.
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NASA, LSIC Excavation & Construction Focus Group, “Lunar Landing and Launch Pads,” October 20, 2020, chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://ntrs.nasa.gov/api/citations/20205009125/downloads/Lunar%20Landing%20%26%20Launch%20Pads%20v1.pdf. See also NASA’s mission overview page, nasa.gov/history/apollo-11-mission-overview.
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Shaffer Grubb and Amina Khan, “The Apollo 11 Mission as Measured by Heartbeats,” Los Angeles Times, July 17, 2019, latimes.com/projects/la-sci-apollo-11-mission-as-measured-by-heartbeats.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 6
James Devitt, “What’s Going On in Our Brains When We Plan?” New York University, June 7, 2024, nyu.edu/about/news-publications/news/2024/june/what-s-going-on-in-our-brains-when-we-plan-.html.
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“Watch Mentalist Oz Pearlman Get Into TODAY Anchors’ Heads,” Today segment, posted March 10, 2016, by TODAY, YouTube, youtube.com/watch?v=K_K3fcfYKAY.
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Chapter Three—Make Your Fear of Rejection Magically Disappear
Kirsten Weir, “The Pain of Social Rejection,” Monitor on Psychology 43, no. 4 (April 2012): 50, apa.org/monitor/2012/04/rejection.
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Mary Beckman, “Rejection Is Like Pain to the Brain,” Science, October 9, 2003, science.org/content/article/rejection-pain-brain.
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Elitsa Dermendzhiyska, “Rejection Kills,” Aeon, April 30, 2019, aeon.co/essays/health-warning-social-rejection-doesnt-only-hurt-it-kills.
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Guy Winch, “10 Surprising Facts About Rejection,” Psychology Today, July 3, 2013, psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201307/10-surprising-facts-about-rejection.
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Ana Sandoiu, “Do You Fear Embarrassment? Here’s How to Overcome It,” Medical News Today, April 1, 2018, medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321378.
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Yanhua Cheng and Daniel Grühn, “Age Differences in Reactions to Social Rejection: The Role of Cognitive Resources and Appraisals,” The Journals of Gerontology: Series B 70, no. 6 (November 2015): 830–39, doi.org/10.1093/geronb/gbu054.
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“Carrie Rescued from the Bin | Mark Lawson Talks to Stephen King,” Interview, posted June 5, 2009, by BBC Studios, YouTube, youtube.com/watch?v=xgqj7dbLSas.
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Lucas Reilly, “How Stephen King’s Wife Saved ‘Carrie’ and Helped Launch His Career,” Mental Floss, April 5, 2024, mentalfloss.com/article/53235/how-stephen-kings-wife-saved-carrie-and-launched-his-career.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 8
“6 Famous Authors Who Once Faced Rejection,” WildMind (blog), accessed May 12, 2025, wildmindcreative.com/bookmarketing/6-famous-authors-who-once-faced-rejection; Sughen Yongo, “The Best Stephen King Books, Ranked and in Order,” Forbes, June 9, 2025, forbes.com/sites/entertainment/article/stephen-king-books.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 9
Scott Mautz, “11 Famous Failures That Will Inspire You to Success,” Inc., September 12, 2017, inc.com/scott-mautz/11-famous-failures-that-will-inspire-you-to-succes.html.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 10
Liadan Gunter, “Neuroscience: What Social Media Does to Your Brain,” Nivati, updated May 27, 2025, nivati.com/blog/neuroscience-what-social-media-does-to-your-brain.
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Pam Belluck, “Memories Weaken Without Reinforcement, Study Finds,” New York Times, March 16, 2015, nytimes.com/2015/03/17/science/memories-become-weaker-without-reinforcement-study-finds.html.
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Chapter Four—Focus on Others
Kate Lunau, “King of Beer Sales, Amigo,” Maclean’s, August 13, 2009, macleans.ca/economy/business/king-of-beer-sales-amigo.
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Harneet Kaur, “The Lost Art of Empathy,” Psychiatric Times, February 17, 2022, psychiatrictimes.com/view/the-lost-art-of-empathy.
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Alison Jane Martingano, “Social Media and Empathy Around the Globe,” Character & Context (blog), The Society for Personality and Social Psychology, March 3, 2023, spsp.org/news/character-and-context-blog/martingano-social-media-use-lower-empathy.
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“How Social Media Impedes Empathy,” Move This World, January 15, 2019, movethisworld.com/mental-health-awareness/2019-1-15-how-social-media-impedes-empathy.
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Chapter Five—Forget Tomorrow, Start Today
“Limbic System,” Cleveland Clinic, accessed May 12, 2025, my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/limbic-system.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 1
Amy Spencer, “Want to Train Your Brain to Stop Procrastinating? Read These Tips from a Neuroscientist,” Real Simple, last updated May 1, 2023, realsimple.com/work-life/life-strategies/time-management/procrastination.
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Aniesa Hanson, “The Paralysis of Fear: How Fear of Failure Contributes to Unhappiness,” Hanson Complete Wellness, accessed May 12, 2025, hansoncomplete.com/fear.
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Magdalena Bak-Maier, “The Psychology Behind Task Completion: A Student’s Guide,” Make Time Count (blog), accessed May 12, 2025, maketimecount.com/how-completion-helps-students-build-confidence.
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Mya Care Editorial Team, “The Zeigarnik Effect: Why Do Unfinished Tasks Haunt Us?” Mya Care, January 4, 2024, myacare.com/blog/the-zeigarnik-effect-why-do-unfinished-tasks-haunt-us.
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Rishi Sriram, “The Neuroscience Behind Productive Struggle,” Edutopia, April 13, 2020, edutopia.org/article/neuroscience-behind-productive-struggle.
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Keiichiro Susuki, “Myelin: A Specialized Membrane for Cell Communication,” Nature Education 3, no. 9 (2010): 59, nature.com/scitable/topicpage/myelin-a-specialized-membrane-for-cell-communication-14367205.
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Matt Puderbaugh and Prabhu D. Emmady, “Neuroplasticity,” StatPearls Publishing, January 2025, ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK557811.
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Duncan Haughey, “A Brief History of SMART Goals,” ProjectSmart, December 13, 2014, projectsmart.co.uk/smart-goals/brief-history-of-smart-goals.php [inactive].
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Stacey McLachlan, “The Science of Habit,” Healthline, December 22, 2021, healthline.com/health/the-science-of-habit#1.
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James Clear, “The Cardinal Rule of Behavior Change,” James Clear, jamesclear.com/quotes/the-cardinal-rule-of-behavior-change.
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Katie Doll, “The Habit Loop: Charles Duhigg’s Theory for Continuous Actions,” Shortform, July 3, 2023, shortform.com/blog/the-habit-loop-2.
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“Oxytocin,” Cleveland Clinic, accessed May 12, 2025, my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22618-oxytocin.
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Lisa Nutter and Tim Freundlich, “A Social Movement Requires Momentum,” Stanford Social Innovation Review, March 29, 2023, ssir.org/articles/entry/a_social_movement_requires_momentum.
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Chapter Six—Stack the Deck in Your Favor
Michael John O’Keeffe, “Science Is Just Starting to Understand the Benefits of Athletes Putting Their Brains in ‘Auto Pilot,’ ” The Conversation, June 26, 2024, theconversation.com/science-is-just-starting-to-understand-the-benefits-of-athletes-putting-their-brains-in-auto-pilot-232596.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 1
Colleen Walsh, “Give Her Some Space: Psychologist’s Perspective on Simone Biles at the Olympics Includes Message for Parents, Coaches,” The Harvard Gazette, July 30, 2021, news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/07/a-harvard-psychologists-perspective-on-biles-at-the-olympics.
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John Kounios and David S. Rosen, “Brain Scans of Jazz Musicians Reveal How to Reach a Creative ‘Flow State,’ ” Scientific American 331, no. 3 (October 2024): 66, scientificamerican.com/article/brain-scans-of-jazz-musicians-reveal-how-to-reach-a-creative-flow-state.
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Nathan Cross, “Neuroscience of Peak Performance: Unlocking the Secrets of Elite Athletes and Entrepreneurs,” Medium, September 16, 2023, medium.com/@NC_16/neuroscience-of-peak-performance-unlocking-the-secrets-of-elite-athletes-and-entrepreneurs-72ce73b026.
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Richard Lewis, “Mindful Mistakes: How Brains Learn from Errors,” Neuroscience News, November 9, 2023, neurosciencenews.com/errorr-learning-brain-25183.
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Krissy Brady, “This Is Why You Get More Anxious After Something Good Happens,” HuffPost, April 9, 2019, huffpost.com/entry/anxiety-good-things_l_5ca78fc1e4b047edf959e2fe.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 6
Devrupa Rakshit, “Is This Normal? ‘Every Time I Start to Feel Happy, I Get Scared Bad Things Will Happen,’ ” The Swaddle, September 7, 2020, theswaddle.com/is-this-normal-every-time-i-start-to-feel-happy-i-get-scared-bad-things-will-happen.
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Alicia Clark, Hack Your Anxiety (Sourcebooks: 2018).
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“How to Regulate Your Nervous System and Restore Calm: 12 Proven Techniques,” Calm.com, accessed May 12, 2025, https://calm.com/blog/how-to-regulate-nervous-system.
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Chapter Seven—Don’t Be Your Own Worst Enemy
Caroline Bologna, “ ‘Fake It Till You Make It’ Isn’t Just a Cliché. It’s Backed by Science,” HuffPost, August 3, 2022, huffpost.com/entry/behavioral-activation-fake-it-til-you-make-it_l_62d7140ae4b0aad58d139763.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 1
Lisa Lavigna, “The Dangers of Negative Thinking and How to Master Positive Self-Talk,” Excelsior University, September 21, 2023, excelsior.edu/article/the-dangers-of-negative-thinking-and-how-to-master-positive-self-talk.
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Shefali Raina, “Four Brain Science Habits to Help Neutralize Negative Self-Talk,” Forbes, May 06, 2021, forbes.com/councils/forbescoachescouncil/2021/05/06/four-brain-science-habits-to-help-neutralize-negative-self-talk.
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“Catch It, Check It, Change It,” Headroom Wellbeing Guide, BBC, accessed May 12, 2025, downloads.bbc.co.uk/headroom/cbt/catch_it.pdf.
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“Implementing the EASE Shift Perspective Principle: CBT Techniques,” Veterans Affairs, accessed May 12, 2025, mirecc.va.gov/visn5/training/docs/Handout_Shift_Persp.pdf.
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J. M. Dutcher et al., “Self-Affirmation Activates the Ventral Striatum: A Possible Reward-Related Mechanism for Self-Affirmation,” Psychol Science 27, no. 4 (April 2016): 455–66, doi.org/10.1177/0956797615625989.
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Fernando Gomez-Pinilla and Charles Hillman, “The Influence of Exercise on Cognitive Abilities,” Comprehensive Physiology 3, no. 1 (January 2013): 403–28, pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3951958.
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Grace McGregor, “How Exercise Affects the Brain,” Brigham Young University, February 8, 2021, lifesciences.byu.edu/how-exercise-affects-your-brain.
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Chapter Eight—Ask for Help
Dan Schawbel, “Brene Brown: How Vulnerability Can Make Our Lives Better,” Forbes, April 21, 2013, forbes.com/sites/danschawbel/2013/04/21/brene-brown-how-vulnerability-can-make-our-lives-better.
BACK TO NOTE REFERENCE 1
“Oxytocin: The Love Hormone,” Harvard Health Publishing, June 13, 2023, health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/oxytocin-the-love-hormone.
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Jennifer Caspari, “Embracing Vulnerability,” Psychology Today, May 7, 2023, psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-well-when-your-body-doesnt-cooperate/202305/embracing-vulnerability.
