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The Myth of Normal, page 58
Kerr, Michael, 198
Khazanov, Natasha, 123
King, Suzanne, 64
King James Bible, 477
Klein, Michael, 151
Klein, Naomi, 292
Kline, Maggie, 491
Knott, Helen
on compassion of truth, 387
on dissociation, 263
In My Own Moccasins, 311, 315, 408
on racism, 311, 315–16
self-accusations of, 436–37
on self-harm, 259–60
on spirituality, 473
Kobor, Michael, 278
Kohn, Alfie, 116, 195–96
Kornfield, Jack, 467
Kotbi, Nabil, 236, 236n
Krishna, 52
Kristeva, Julia, 203–4
Kristof, Nicholas, 304, 305
Krugman, Paul, 284–85
Kupfer, David, 240
L
Ladd, Virginia, 72, 73
Lady Gaga, 357
Lakoff, George, 353
Lamott, Anne, 261
Lancet, 85, 149, 293, 301, 309
Lancet Oncology, 42
Landslide (Wolff), 343
Last Day podcast, 227–28
Leaves of Grass (Whitman), 52
legal system, 475–76, 489–90
Leslie, 257–59
Les Misérables (Hugo), 481
Letourneau, Nicole, 141–42, 145
Letters to a Young Poet (Rilke), 374
Levine, Peter
on denial, 441
on image, 203
on self-limiting beliefs, 422
on trauma, 16, 18, 21–22, 23–24
Lewis, Candace, 60
Lewontin, R. C., 250
Lewy body disease, 260
Liedloff, Jean, 119, 120, 124–25, 131, 158, 167–68
The Life and Opinions of Tristram Shandy, Gentleman (Sterne), 136
“life events,” 43
Lifton, Robert J., 495–96
Lindstrom, Martin, 188–89
Lipton, Bruce, 422–23
Living Myth Podcast, 479
loneliness, 57–58, 170, 174–78, 293–95
Los Angeles Times, 195
loss of meaning, 286–88, 291–92
Lost Connections (Hari), 247–48
Lupick, Travis, 222
lupus, 70, 83, 330
Lustig, Rob, 297–98, 301, 310
lying, 350–51
lymphoma, 96
M
Mad Men (TV series), 298–99
Madness Explained (Bentall), 253
Madness: The Podcast, 307n
Malcolm X, 312
malignant normality, 495–97
Mandela, Nelson, 179
Mandelstam, Nadezhda, 363
Manne, Kate, 340–41
Marmot, Michael, 324–25, 328
Maron, Marc, 261
marriage status, 56–57
Martinez, Mario, 408, 422
Marx, Karl, 288, 290
Marxism, 283
masculine-coded perks and privileges, 340–41
Maslow, Abraham, 496
Mason-John, Valerie (Vimalasara), 313–14
Maté, Aaron, 182
Maté, Daniel, 128, 440–41
Maté, Gabor
anti-Semitism and, 311
childhood, 14, 16, 17, 26, 130–31, 133, 176, 254–56, 370–71, 372
communing with God, 454, 462, 463–66. See also touching spirit
depression and, 254–56
family life, 128, 136–39, 137, 141, 143, 145, 182, 339
marriage life, 15–17, 18, 19, 29, 329–30, 339, 340
migration to Canada, 320–21
mother (Judith), 14, 17–18, 26, 130–31, 133
mother-in-law (Monica), 170
painting of, 14
personal journey of unmaking normal, 483–85
psychedelic and healing journey of, 447–54
on Rae’s childbirth experience, 158
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, 30, 212, 454
trauma’s effect on, 15–16, 18, 26, 133
When the Body Says No, 374, 410
Maté, Rae
childbirth experience, 158
family life and pregnancy, 128, 136–39, 141, 143, 145, 182, 339
marriage life, 15–17, 18, 19, 29, 329–30, 339, 340
paintings, 14, 137
on sexualization of women, 332
materialism, 295–96
Matthew, 448, 450–51
maturation, 127–28, 131–34, 182, 185–89
May, Rollo, 29
Mayo Clinic, 243
McCabe, Pat (Woman Stands Shining), 472
McEwen, Bruce, 48, 57, 276
Meade, Michael, 479–80
Medicare for All, 493
medicine. See Western medicine
Mee Ok. See Icaro, Mee Ok “Mandy”
Mehl-Madrona, Lewis, 473–75
melanoma, 99, 100
Menand, Louis, 252
mental illness and personality disorders, 235–52, 253–72. See also specific conditions
adaptation of control as, 270–72
adaptation of disconnection as, 264–67
adaptation of dissociation as, 255–56, 262–64
adaptation of power as, 267–70
adaptation of sensitivity as, 249–51
biological approach to, 235–41, 255–56, 266
child development and, 126, 134, 242–44, 247, 248–49, 257, 267–70
compassionate approach to, 272
as a construct, 239–40
diagnostic approach to, 241–45, 253–54
digital technology use and, 191–92
genetic approach to, 237–38, 240, 249–50, 251–52, 262–63, 265
healing journey and, 238–39
as healing journey teacher, 440–41
“It’s not your fault,” 272
personal stories, 235–36, 254–62
pharmaceutical approach to, 235, 245–48, 264–65, 267, 267n
pregnancy environment and, 144, 145
sensitivity and, 261–63, 265–67
Merton, Thomas, 200, 204, 389
midwifery, 146–47, 150–55, 158–59
migraine headaches, 101–2
Milburn, Michael, 346–47
Miller, Alice, 347, 370
The Mind and the Brain (Schwartz), 423–24
The MindBody Code (Martinez), 408, 422
mind-body unity, 38–46, 49–51, 96–97, 461–62
mindfulness practices, 344, 382–83, 424, 477
mind-hacking, 299
Miray, 79
Molecules of Emotion (Pert), 37, 39–40
Monroe, Marilyn, 356
Montagu, Ashley, 163–64, 326
Moody Bitches (Holland), 329
Moorjani, Anita, 96, 110, 112, 375–76
Morissette, Alanis, 234, 335, 335n, 357, 483
Mork & Mindy (TV show), 262
Moss, Michael, 299
Mount Kilimanjaro, 367–69
Mount Sinai Hospital, 155–57
Mukherjee, Siddhartha, 197–98
multiple sclerosis (MS), 73, 79–82, 394–95
Murthy, Vivek, 295
muscular dystrophy, 60n
Musk, Elon, 284
myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME; chronic fatigue syndrome), 70, 101–2
mythic thinking, 478–80
N
Nader, Ralph, 285
narcissism, 30–31, 307, 436
Narcotics Anonymous, 215–16
Narvaez, Darcia, 120, 122, 131, 132n, 166–67, 168, 175
National Health Service (Great Britain), 303
Native American Church, 462
natural killer (NK) cells, 41–42
Nature, 469–71, 473, 479
Navarro, Dave, 218, 219, 357
Nazis, 17, 17n, 347, 370, 371–72, 437–38, 495–96
neoliberalism, 279–80, 279n
nervous system
addiction and, 232–34
autoimmunity and, 76–78, 79–82
autonomic nervous system, 45, 92, 365
child development and, 124–25, 134
human nature and, 120–21
mind-body unity and, 45
pregnancy environment and, 141–42
self-limiting beliefs and, 422–23
socioeconomic status and, 326
Netsilik Inuit, 164
Neufeld, Gordon
on acceptance, 381
on attachment and authenticity, 105, 109, 181
on child development, 126–28
on free play, 194
on maturation, 131–34, 132n
on peer orientation, 181
on sleep training, 170
on vulnerability, 185–86
neural expectancy, 120–21
neurobiology (interpersonal), 54–56
neurogenic inflammation, 76–78
neuromarketing, 298–300
Never Broken (Jewel), 430
New England Journal of Medicine, 309
New Yorker, 91, 161, 169, 197–98, 252
New York Times, 72, 141, 161, 172, 183–84, 281, 283–86, 290, 295, 304, 306, 310, 335, 338
Nietzsche, Friedrich, 53, 350
“no,” 413–16, 417–19
No Contest (Kohn), 195–96
No Logo (Klein), 292
nonthings, 37, 40, 48, 51
normal, myth of
acculturation and, 6–8
background, 1–6
current medical paradigm of, 8–9
human development. See character-building; childbirth; child development and parenting; human nature and human needs; pregnancy environment
interconnected natures. See attachment and authenticity; autoimmunity; disease as a process; emotions; genes and genetic inheritance; interpersonal biology; trauma facets
rethinking normal. See addiction; mental illness and personality disorders
toxicities of culture, 3–5. See also capitalism and corporate capitalism; disconnection of society; gender gap; otherism; political culture; popular culture
wholeness pathways. See disease as a teacher; healing journey; normal, unmaking of; touching spirit
normal, unmaking of, 481–97
COVID-19 experience and, 494–95
malignant normality, 495–97
personal journeys for, 481–86
trauma-conscious society development, 486–94
North American Free Trade Agreement, 301–2
Northern Ireland, 367–69
O
Obama, Barack, 355
obesity, 270, 301–4
obituaries, 103–4
obsessive-compulsive disorder, 424
Occupy Wall Street protests, 493
Odent, Michel, 146, 148–49, 148n, 150, 158
Of Woman Born (Rich), 148
opioid epidemic, 304–7, 493–94
oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), 243
orchids (sensitive children), 250
Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development, 281, 302
originality. See attachment and authenticity
Khazanov, Natasha, 123
King, Suzanne, 64
King James Bible, 477
Klein, Michael, 151
Klein, Naomi, 292
Kline, Maggie, 491
Knott, Helen
on compassion of truth, 387
on dissociation, 263
In My Own Moccasins, 311, 315, 408
on racism, 311, 315–16
self-accusations of, 436–37
on self-harm, 259–60
on spirituality, 473
Kobor, Michael, 278
Kohn, Alfie, 116, 195–96
Kornfield, Jack, 467
Kotbi, Nabil, 236, 236n
Krishna, 52
Kristeva, Julia, 203–4
Kristof, Nicholas, 304, 305
Krugman, Paul, 284–85
Kupfer, David, 240
L
Ladd, Virginia, 72, 73
Lady Gaga, 357
Lakoff, George, 353
Lamott, Anne, 261
Lancet, 85, 149, 293, 301, 309
Lancet Oncology, 42
Landslide (Wolff), 343
Last Day podcast, 227–28
Leaves of Grass (Whitman), 52
legal system, 475–76, 489–90
Leslie, 257–59
Les Misérables (Hugo), 481
Letourneau, Nicole, 141–42, 145
Letters to a Young Poet (Rilke), 374
Levine, Peter
on denial, 441
on image, 203
on self-limiting beliefs, 422
on trauma, 16, 18, 21–22, 23–24
Lewis, Candace, 60
Lewontin, R. C., 250
Lewy body disease, 260
Liedloff, Jean, 119, 120, 124–25, 131, 158, 167–68
The Life and Opinions of Tristram Shandy, Gentleman (Sterne), 136
“life events,” 43
Lifton, Robert J., 495–96
Lindstrom, Martin, 188–89
Lipton, Bruce, 422–23
Living Myth Podcast, 479
loneliness, 57–58, 170, 174–78, 293–95
Los Angeles Times, 195
loss of meaning, 286–88, 291–92
Lost Connections (Hari), 247–48
Lupick, Travis, 222
lupus, 70, 83, 330
Lustig, Rob, 297–98, 301, 310
lying, 350–51
lymphoma, 96
M
Mad Men (TV series), 298–99
Madness Explained (Bentall), 253
Madness: The Podcast, 307n
Malcolm X, 312
malignant normality, 495–97
Mandela, Nelson, 179
Mandelstam, Nadezhda, 363
Manne, Kate, 340–41
Marmot, Michael, 324–25, 328
Maron, Marc, 261
marriage status, 56–57
Martinez, Mario, 408, 422
Marx, Karl, 288, 290
Marxism, 283
masculine-coded perks and privileges, 340–41
Maslow, Abraham, 496
Mason-John, Valerie (Vimalasara), 313–14
Maté, Aaron, 182
Maté, Daniel, 128, 440–41
Maté, Gabor
anti-Semitism and, 311
childhood, 14, 16, 17, 26, 130–31, 133, 176, 254–56, 370–71, 372
communing with God, 454, 462, 463–66. See also touching spirit
depression and, 254–56
family life, 128, 136–39, 137, 141, 143, 145, 182, 339
marriage life, 15–17, 18, 19, 29, 329–30, 339, 340
migration to Canada, 320–21
mother (Judith), 14, 17–18, 26, 130–31, 133
mother-in-law (Monica), 170
painting of, 14
personal journey of unmaking normal, 483–85
psychedelic and healing journey of, 447–54
on Rae’s childbirth experience, 158
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, 30, 212, 454
trauma’s effect on, 15–16, 18, 26, 133
When the Body Says No, 374, 410
Maté, Rae
childbirth experience, 158
family life and pregnancy, 128, 136–39, 141, 143, 145, 182, 339
marriage life, 15–17, 18, 19, 29, 329–30, 339, 340
paintings, 14, 137
on sexualization of women, 332
materialism, 295–96
Matthew, 448, 450–51
maturation, 127–28, 131–34, 182, 185–89
May, Rollo, 29
Mayo Clinic, 243
McCabe, Pat (Woman Stands Shining), 472
McEwen, Bruce, 48, 57, 276
Meade, Michael, 479–80
Medicare for All, 493
medicine. See Western medicine
Mee Ok. See Icaro, Mee Ok “Mandy”
Mehl-Madrona, Lewis, 473–75
melanoma, 99, 100
Menand, Louis, 252
mental illness and personality disorders, 235–52, 253–72. See also specific conditions
adaptation of control as, 270–72
adaptation of disconnection as, 264–67
adaptation of dissociation as, 255–56, 262–64
adaptation of power as, 267–70
adaptation of sensitivity as, 249–51
biological approach to, 235–41, 255–56, 266
child development and, 126, 134, 242–44, 247, 248–49, 257, 267–70
compassionate approach to, 272
as a construct, 239–40
diagnostic approach to, 241–45, 253–54
digital technology use and, 191–92
genetic approach to, 237–38, 240, 249–50, 251–52, 262–63, 265
healing journey and, 238–39
as healing journey teacher, 440–41
“It’s not your fault,” 272
personal stories, 235–36, 254–62
pharmaceutical approach to, 235, 245–48, 264–65, 267, 267n
pregnancy environment and, 144, 145
sensitivity and, 261–63, 265–67
Merton, Thomas, 200, 204, 389
midwifery, 146–47, 150–55, 158–59
migraine headaches, 101–2
Milburn, Michael, 346–47
Miller, Alice, 347, 370
The Mind and the Brain (Schwartz), 423–24
The MindBody Code (Martinez), 408, 422
mind-body unity, 38–46, 49–51, 96–97, 461–62
mindfulness practices, 344, 382–83, 424, 477
mind-hacking, 299
Miray, 79
Molecules of Emotion (Pert), 37, 39–40
Monroe, Marilyn, 356
Montagu, Ashley, 163–64, 326
Moody Bitches (Holland), 329
Moorjani, Anita, 96, 110, 112, 375–76
Morissette, Alanis, 234, 335, 335n, 357, 483
Mork & Mindy (TV show), 262
Moss, Michael, 299
Mount Kilimanjaro, 367–69
Mount Sinai Hospital, 155–57
Mukherjee, Siddhartha, 197–98
multiple sclerosis (MS), 73, 79–82, 394–95
Murthy, Vivek, 295
muscular dystrophy, 60n
Musk, Elon, 284
myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME; chronic fatigue syndrome), 70, 101–2
mythic thinking, 478–80
N
Nader, Ralph, 285
narcissism, 30–31, 307, 436
Narcotics Anonymous, 215–16
Narvaez, Darcia, 120, 122, 131, 132n, 166–67, 168, 175
National Health Service (Great Britain), 303
Native American Church, 462
natural killer (NK) cells, 41–42
Nature, 469–71, 473, 479
Navarro, Dave, 218, 219, 357
Nazis, 17, 17n, 347, 370, 371–72, 437–38, 495–96
neoliberalism, 279–80, 279n
nervous system
addiction and, 232–34
autoimmunity and, 76–78, 79–82
autonomic nervous system, 45, 92, 365
child development and, 124–25, 134
human nature and, 120–21
mind-body unity and, 45
pregnancy environment and, 141–42
self-limiting beliefs and, 422–23
socioeconomic status and, 326
Netsilik Inuit, 164
Neufeld, Gordon
on acceptance, 381
on attachment and authenticity, 105, 109, 181
on child development, 126–28
on free play, 194
on maturation, 131–34, 132n
on peer orientation, 181
on sleep training, 170
on vulnerability, 185–86
neural expectancy, 120–21
neurobiology (interpersonal), 54–56
neurogenic inflammation, 76–78
neuromarketing, 298–300
Never Broken (Jewel), 430
New England Journal of Medicine, 309
New Yorker, 91, 161, 169, 197–98, 252
New York Times, 72, 141, 161, 172, 183–84, 281, 283–86, 290, 295, 304, 306, 310, 335, 338
Nietzsche, Friedrich, 53, 350
“no,” 413–16, 417–19
No Contest (Kohn), 195–96
No Logo (Klein), 292
nonthings, 37, 40, 48, 51
normal, myth of
acculturation and, 6–8
background, 1–6
current medical paradigm of, 8–9
human development. See character-building; childbirth; child development and parenting; human nature and human needs; pregnancy environment
interconnected natures. See attachment and authenticity; autoimmunity; disease as a process; emotions; genes and genetic inheritance; interpersonal biology; trauma facets
rethinking normal. See addiction; mental illness and personality disorders
toxicities of culture, 3–5. See also capitalism and corporate capitalism; disconnection of society; gender gap; otherism; political culture; popular culture
wholeness pathways. See disease as a teacher; healing journey; normal, unmaking of; touching spirit
normal, unmaking of, 481–97
COVID-19 experience and, 494–95
malignant normality, 495–97
personal journeys for, 481–86
trauma-conscious society development, 486–94
North American Free Trade Agreement, 301–2
Northern Ireland, 367–69
O
Obama, Barack, 355
obesity, 270, 301–4
obituaries, 103–4
obsessive-compulsive disorder, 424
Occupy Wall Street protests, 493
Odent, Michel, 146, 148–49, 148n, 150, 158
Of Woman Born (Rich), 148
opioid epidemic, 304–7, 493–94
oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), 243
orchids (sensitive children), 250
Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development, 281, 302
originality. See attachment and authenticity
