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The Power We Hold, page 24
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Daily Practice: Act from Your Authentic Belief
This is where the authentic belief starts becoming real in your everyday life. Now that you’ve felt it in your body through movement, sensation, sound, and visualization, it’s time to live it. This step is about reinforcement.
The more your subconscious sees you acting from this belief, the more it accepts it as true. Think of it as like muscle memory: Every time you take an action aligned with your belief, you’re strengthening the neural pathway in your brain. Over time, it becomes automatic.
Choose one small action today that reflects your new belief. It doesn’t have to be big – it just has to be different. Something that slightly disrupts your old pattern and moves you closer to your authentic self. Here are some examples:
If you’re reclaiming the belief ‘I’m worthy exactly as I am,’ maybe you can speak up in a meeting or post a photo without editing it.
If your belief is ‘I can get what I want,’ maybe you can pitch an idea, ask for help, or take the first step toward something you’ve been putting off.
If you’re rewiring ‘It’s safe to rest,’ you might decline an invitation without guilt or take a nap without justifying it.
And when your nervous system starts to protest (remember, it wants to keep you in the familiar), use your somatic tools to support it. Rock. Breathe. Move. Remember, resistance doesn’t mean you’re going backward – it means you’re rewiring and expanding. You’re creating a new comfort zone, and that comes with growing pains.
How to Recognize Signs of Rewiring
Keep going with this practice until you begin to feel a shift in your adaptive belief – whether that’s in your body, your thoughts, your behavior, or your emotional reactions (see below). Trust the process. Your consistency is the most powerful ingredient.
Signs You’re Making Progress
Awareness: You have a longer pause time between a stress trigger and moving through the survival loop. You can recognize what’s happening and why it’s happening. And even though you weren’t quite ready to prevent yourself from moving through the rest of the loop, you’ve made progress.
Action: You recognize what’s happening and are able to take steps to avoid the loop: for example, taking deep breaths or a quick walk, listening to music, talking to a trusted friend, or other nervous system regulation techniques that work for you.
Signs You’ve Reclaimed Your Belief
You feel a sense of safety and relief: This can look like a letting-go feeling – maybe a big sigh, tears, laughter, or as if your heart has opened up a little more. Something feels different! Ninety-nine percent of us won’t rewire completely the first time we do this practice, especially when we’re dealing with a deeply ingrained belief, trauma, or a memory that we’ve spent years reinforcing. Remember, repetition plus emotional intensity are the key to creating new neural pathways in the brain and rewiring the nervous system. Keep going – this works.
You show up as this belief with confidence: You no longer need to force it or overthink it. You just are this person now. You know you don’t have to be perfect to be loved.
Your nervous system stays regulated in situations that used to activate you: The things that once sent you spiraling now feel… manageable. You might still experience stress, but it moves through you rather than taking over. You recover faster and take action from your authentic belief.
Let’s end this chapter with a story that illustrates the power of subconscious rewiring.
Emily’s Story
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For Emily, from Denver, Colorado, life had always been a constant push and pull – wanting more but staying stuck, knowing better but falling into the same patterns. At 34, she was living with PCOS, pre-diabetes, knee issues, and depression; she was also numbing with marijuana and alcohol, and carrying far more weight than she was comfortable with.
For years, she’d tried to force change – 10 years of therapy, thousands of dollars spent on top specialists, all the right books, all the right podcasts. Yet her body, her emotions, and her relationships all felt like a loop she couldn’t break.
The therapy had helped Emily understand intellectually why she was the way she was. She believed her parents’ divorce, when she was eight, was the defining moment of her childhood. Raised by her father, she’d learned to take care of herself, to be independent. But she’d also learned how to abandon herself. It showed up in her relationships, where she kept choosing emotionally unavailable men. They weren’t bad people, but they were always lacking something she convinced herself she could provide.
Still, something felt missing from her story. So, we did a one-to-one ThetaSomatics™ hypnotherapy session and what surfaced in her subconscious mind changed everything. A memory, long buried, revealed that her mother, an alcoholic, had attempted suicide – and blamed Emily for it. In that moment, as a child, Emily had internalized a belief that had ruled her life ever since: ‘I’m responsible for everyone around me.’ It was an unbearable emotional and psychological weight to carry.
After the session, Emily finally understood why she could never fully relax, why she was always so focused on fixing everyone around her and always anticipating something going wrong. From that moment, everything started to shift. She completed a ThetaSomatics™ Rewiring Practice every day to reclaim the belief ‘I’m not responsible for anyone else,’ and began redirecting her energy from controlling everything around her to tuning in to what was happening inside of her.
She started using somatic tools in real time to regulate her nervous system. When difficult emotions built up in her body, she knew how to release them. When a friend’s behavior triggered her, she worked through it instead of shutting down. When she sat in traffic and felt anxiety creeping in, she used progressive muscle relaxation and felt her body exhale. She was building something she’d never had before: self-trust.
Andthen, Emily’s new beliefwas testedwhen one thirdofthe employees in her company were let go. Suddenly, she was elevated to a leadership position and was asked to share her thoughts and opinions. A year earlier, she would have crumbled under the pressure. But now she handled it with confidence and clarity, taking on her new workload while maintaining strong boundaries and negotiating a significant pay increase.
She started dating again – and this time she was choosing men who met her, who matched her. She started creative writing again, just for the joy of it. She was finally sticking to her habits and routines, and she began making space in her life. At our final session, I barely recognized the woman in front of me. She was sober. Glowing. Her periods were regular. Her pre-diabetes was nearly fully reversed. Her body felt stronger, looser, and more flexible than ever. Weight was starting to fall off. ‘I used to think healing was a finish line,’ she told me. ‘Like, once I crossed it, I’d be done. But it’s not. It’s just knowing that no matter what happens, I’ll be okay. Because I can handle anything.’
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This ThetaSomatics rewiring work isn’t about fixing you – because you were never broken to begin with – it’s simply about remembering who you’ve always been and giving your body and mind the safety it needs to fully live from and express that truth.
CONCLUSION
‘The future is not something we enter. The future is something we create.’
LEONARD SWEET
We’ve been taught that the feminine is soft, accommodating, endlessly nurturing. But in the cultures that once honored the sacred feminine and the Goddess, she was never just gentle. She was the creator and the destroyer. The force that rose when life was threatened. She held the full spectrum of power: life, death, intuition, rage, creation, boundaries. She wasn’t meant to be managed or made palatable. She was meant to be respected.
That’s what we’ve lost, and it’s what we’re reclaiming now. Because this kind of power – embodied, unapologetic, wild, rooted in truth – doesn’t belong in systems built on control, extraction, and suppression. That’s why it’s been distorted, dismissed, and erased. But it’s still here. It’s in you. It always was.
Earlier in the book, we explored how women act as an indicator species – our bodies manifesting the tension, distortion, and toxicity of a culture that’s lost its way. But when a woman begins to prune away the roots of depletion and nourish those that sustain her, she no longer exists as a warning sign. She becomes a living blueprint for what’s possible.
By simply embodying her power, she becomes the initiator of a new reality. She becomes the architect of new systems, new rhythms, and new ways of relating to her body, to others, to the Earth and power itself. She no longer waits for change – she becomes it. Not through exhaustion or overcompensation, but through deep nourishment. By no longer abandoning herself. By choosing wholeness over performance. By remembering that her body isn’t a problem to be solved but a source of truth to be followed.
Like the Mother Tree, your presence alone nourishes the field. Your healing creates space for others to grow.
That’s how the forest regenerates – through quiet coherence beneath the surface. Feminine leadership operates the same way. Your nervous system becomes the new paradigm. Your presence becomes the pattern-breaker. You walk into a room and the energy shifts – not because you’re performing but because you’re rooted in something real. This is how change begins – not from the top down, but from the inside out.
Walking the Path of Inner Safety
Let the information, techniques, and practices I’ve shared meet you where you are. Healing isn’t a straight line – it’s seasonal and cyclical. This book is the next chapter in your lifetime’s journey of growth and evolution. A return to yourself and the deeper intelligence inside you – one that doesn’t punish or shame but guides and reveals.
And although this is a personal and collective path, we’re not meant to walk it alone. We need the healthy, sacred masculine too – the steady, protective presence that supports without controlling, holds without silencing, and stands beside instead of above.
Men must feel comfortable to embrace their feminine – the parts of them wired for care, intuition, collaboration, and emotional truth – and redefine their masculine through depth, not dominance. Structure and softness belong together. Both are necessary – in all of us, in all spaces, and all systems – if we are to build a world that truly holds life.
We must all walk the inner path of alignment before we can rebalance the outer world. We must learn to hold polarity without tipping into extremes. To lead with wholeness instead of with wounds. To bring our gifts forward in service, not in competition.
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Writing this book has changed me. It asked me to live the work I teach more fully, and to meet myself more honestly. It revealed where I was still performing, still people-pleasing, still holding back, still outsourcing my safety and silencing my voice. To finish it, I had to let go of the version of myself I thought I needed to be and return to the one I actually am. More embodied. More myself. And I’m not going back.
If this book has challenged or provoked you, too: good. If it’s cracked something open: even better. This means that something in you is remembering. And that’s what this work is about.
This isn’t the end. It’s the beginning. The breakdown is already happening. And the breakthrough starts now. You’re not just an indicator of what’s broken. You’re the initiator of what comes next.
This is the power you hold.
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Chapter 2: How Patriarchy Shaped Modern Medicine
